I write to you with honor, love, and respect.
"The absorbent mind is one of the most important ideas in early childhood education. The absorbent mind makes our adult lives possible." ~Mary Ellen Maunz
It's a highly emotional time here in America. As a matter of fact, emotions have been running high throughout the Black Lives Matter movement and all throughout the Pandemic. As we entered 2021, many people were at a breaking point emotionally. Now, we have the intense emotional experience of the radical Trump supporters storming the Capitol- and here we are hurting and crying- and all over again.
When we're triggered emotionally, we each respond in a variety of ways. Some retreat, some lash out, some stuff the emotions down, and some cement a sense of emotional calm. I choose a state of calm and the awareness that the Universe and God love us, hold us, and sooth our hurts; the Universe is all-knowing, and to live a life of love is to live beautifully and with exuberant joy.
Our children are watching and are highly sensitive beings FEELING us.
From birth to about six years old, it's important to know that their brains are SUPER different than ours.
Here is what is happening: children's brains are like a sponge, soaking up huge amounts of information from their environment. They are absorbing everything around them, effortlessly, continuously, and indiscriminately.
This is what Maria Montessori referred to as “the absorbent mind.”
"The child has a different relation to his environment from ours… the child absorbs it. The things he sees are not just remembered; they form part of his soul. He incarnates in himself all in the world about him that his eyes see and his ears hear." ~Maria Montessori, “The Absorbent Mind”
The development that is taking place during your child’s first six years is enormously important. Children develop 85% of their core brain structure by the time they are five years old. Your child will now build on this core foundation for the rest of her life.
What do we wish for our children to learn from us?
The top 10 social skills for your child to learn are:
listen to others
follow the steps
follow the rules
ask for help
take turns when you talk
get along with others
stay calm with others
be responsible for your behavior
do nice things for others
(Source: Lewis/Newcomber - Positive Behavior Interventions and Supports)
Emotions are a human experience, and we have every right to truly feel them in our hearts and minds.
Feel your emotions. And feel peace. Our children are watching.
How can we live in a state of peace and change from feelings of negativity?
Humans have 60 to 70,000 thoughts per day. If we are on autopilot of living in a state of lack, fear, and pain, 90% of our thoughts will continue to be exactly the same. Our thoughts impact our choices. Our choices impact our behaviors. Our behaviors impact our experiences. Our experiences impact our emotions, and our emotions impact how we think, act and feel. How we think, act, and feel is our personality. Our personality is our personal reality.
When we live in a state of gratitude, we are happier. We are fulfilled. Our life is joyous, and we easily accomplish our goals and accomplishments. Without gratitude, you will always feel like you don't have enough.
How can we live in a state of gratitude?
Through the active practice of shifting our thoughts. Our thoughts become things. When we put in the work to change our thoughts into at least 51% gratitude all of the time, we feel a sense of calm, and we're able to be our very best for our children and teens. Meditations, affirmations, relaxation, visualization, and prayer are all healthy ways to shift into a state of gratitude and bliss.
I encourage you to use your thoughts to create a new life- a new way of becoming that vibrant role model for not only yourself, but for your children.
In the morning, it's a special time for your adult brain. Your adult brain brain is a sponge in that very special time right after you awake from sleep. Instead of diving into Facebook and emails first thing in the morning, dive into prayer. Dive into a guided meditation. You can find them on YouTube.
One guided morning meditation that I love can be found here:
The world may be chaotic; you can be soothing for not only yourself but for your children. As your children are older, I encourage you to have conversations with them about our world. I encourage you to live in love, share love, and exist as love. It is not for us to judge, condemn, argue, seethe, and hurt one another. It is not for us to end friendships and family relationships. It is a time to spread love and not hate.
Be the light. Shine. And if you are struggling to shine for yourself and your children, don't be afraid of seeking professional support through coaching, counseling, and communication with high vibe, positive friends.
I am here for you. I give you love. I give you light, and I'm a message away to serve you and your family for all of your educational needs in the most loving, compassionate way. I am also serving as a Gratitude Coach for women for those who want to absorb my goodness and warmth.
Love to you,
Mrs. Evelyn Educates