I’d like to think that every time Lady Gaga thinks to herself, “Baby, you were born this way!” that she does a little sashay around her home, around the grocery store, or right there on the red carpet because Baby, you were born to be you! Yes, love. You were. Yes to my burly dudes, yes to my Queens, yes to my tomboys, and yes to my LGBTQ+ children, teens, adults, and their families and support systems. Yes! Thank you, Lady Gaga, for shining a light through song for all of us.
And to all, “Don’t be a drag. Just be a Queen,” in however that looks for you.
Manly men, be like King David, but that’s for another blog post.
Back to Gaga.
As a veteran educator for the past 15+ years, I urge from 2005 to present day 2020, I urge you to open your heart and mind to support our youth as they face deep, internal struggles. I see that children and teens model the behaviors and opinions of their parental system in the hallways of our schools.
I’m 4’10’’, and I assure you that this height allows me to hear some very REAL conversations, and some of those conversions are just hurtful and judgmental and mean!
Sometimes those conversations are precious and adorable, and I respectfully pretend not to hear a thing.
This tiny woman life also allows me the privilege of diving right in to support our youth and engage in supportive encouragement through my voice and actions when I am needed, and sometimes I am truly needed. As our children and teens search for their own identities and voices and how to interact with one another, sometimes you just need a kind adult to guide that conversation a bit. I wish I could always be there, but I know that we have to release our children and teens into their own conversations and conflict resolution as they become adults.
I now own an education company in which I support our children and teens, and when working with one teen in particular as they prepared for a high stakes test, I was so very blessed to watch them open their heart and voice to confide in me. I listened. I asked thoughtful questions. I laughed with and loved and supported them, and in turn, they wrote a mini-essay that I have permission to share with you below:
My goals and dreams are to become a rocket scientist after hopefully attending M.I.T. I hope to help with the development of new technology. Also, this is important for me to share with you. I’m a Non-Binary teen, and it’s hard being friends with all these people, and then boom telling them that you’re Non-Binary and that your name is something else now. My parents are nice people and they understand and try their best, and my friends are doing a wonderful job in calling me my new name, and addressing me with They, Them pronouns but then there are the people who are just assume my gender because of my body. There are some people who decided that since I have the build of a girl or a woman that I’m automatically a she, her and that I want to be called that. If people could just ask what my pronouns are I would gladly, with pride, in fact, tell them I want to be called my chosen name, and my pronouns are they, them. I was called “silly” by my great-uncle, and my grandmother tried to convince me that I was what she called “androgynous” and that I was just going through a phase. Even my parents said that I was having issues with my body because I was going through changes, but the thing is I’ve always hated it; I will never love it. I’m also a pansexual, and when you read that word, I know your mind went to pans, and you probably thought “Oh, they love pans.” No, that is an offensive joke, but don’t worry; believe me, I’ve gotten that comment a lot, and it’s fine if you thought that. Just do not mention it, please. The thing is this: if you think about the word panorama, you think of an all around view, right? Well, pansexual means you love all the genders. There are a lot more than just the three you would think, and you’d gladly love anyone who loves you.
Hold up. I’m reading your blog, Evelyn, and I know you’re a spiritual woman of faith. How can you be be so into your faith and be so supportive? To this, I simply respond that we are all so very loved by our Heavenly Father. Loved, cherished, adored, protected, and divinely and uniquely made. No human is a mistake, and embracing who you are in your heart and soul is reason to celebrate. Let’s celebrate diversity and life! Let’s learn to hear the stories of our loved ones and those we meet in passing. Open your heart. God loves, and so should we.